2.1 It’s Not a Contract, It’s a Relationship.
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Why the quality of the consulting relationship matters more than the scope
When organisations engage consultants, attention often centres on contracts, scopes, timelines, and deliverables. These elements are important. They provide structure, manage risk, and create a shared reference point for what will be delivered.
But they are not what ultimately determines whether an engagement succeeds.
The most effective consulting work is rarely transactional. It is relational. It relies on trust, shared intent, and the recognition that complex organisational challenges cannot be fully defined, priced, or solved through a static agreement alone. This article explores why treating consulting as a relationship, rather than a simple commercial transaction, is critical to achieving meaningful and lasting outcomes.
Why a Transactional View of Consulting Falls Short
A transactional view of consulting assumes that the problem is already well understood, the solution can be clearly specified upfront, and value is created primarily through the delivery of agreed outputs.
In practice, organisations most often engage consultants because the situation is uncertain, complex, or evolving. Strategic challenges, transformation programs, cultural shifts, and service redesign efforts are shaped by competing priorities, organisational history, power dynamics, and varying levels of readiness for change.
When consulting is treated purely as a contract in these contexts, engagements tend to produce outputs that appear complete but fail to deliver impact. The work may technically meet the brief, yet miss the underlying issues that prompted the engagement in the first place.
Consulting Is, Fundamentally, a Human Endeavour
At its core, consulting is a human-centric process. It involves people working together to make sense of complexity, ambiguity, and competing perspectives.
Outcomes are influenced as much by the quality of conversations as by technical expertise. They depend on whether difficult topics can be raised early, whether assumptions can be challenged safely, and whether there is space to adapt as understanding deepens.
Where relationships are weak, consultants are often incentivised to deliver exactly what has been requested, even when it is clear that something else is needed. Where relationships are strong, there is room to pause, reframe, and adjust direction before momentum turns into misalignment.
Trust as the Enabler of Value
Trust is frequently cited as important in consulting relationships, yet it is often left undefined.
In practice, trust is built through credibility in expertise, reliability in behaviour, transparency about risks and limitations, and a low focus on personal or organisational self-interest. Together, these elements create the conditions where honest conversations can occur without defensiveness or fear of consequence.
Without trust, consulting engagements tend to default to safe outputs. These are polished, agreeable, and rarely transformative. With trust, organisations and consultants are more likely to engage in the kind of rigorous thinking and challenge that leads to better decisions.
Why Fit Matters as Much as Capability
Technical capability is necessary, but it is rarely sufficient on its own.
Effective consulting relationships depend heavily on alignment around values, ways of working, and expectations about the role of evidence, advice, and challenge. Differences in orientation towards customers, organisational priorities, or risk can quickly surface during an engagement, often in subtle ways.
These misalignments are not usually visible in proposals or contracts. They emerge through behaviour, particularly in how feedback is received, how disagreement is handled, and how decisions are made when evidence is uncomfortable.
Recognising fit early, on both sides, helps avoid engagements that consume time and energy without delivering meaningful value.
Shared Accountability, Not Outsourced Responsibility
Treating consulting as a relationship also changes how accountability is understood.
In high-performing engagements, consultants are accountable for the quality of their insight, advice, and support. Organisations remain accountable for decisions, implementation, and change. This balance reinforces collaboration rather than dependency and helps prevent consulting from becoming a substitute for leadership.
When accountability is shared, both parties are more invested in outcomes rather than appearances.
Looking Beyond the First Engagement
Consulting success is often measured by whether a project was delivered on time and within budget. While these measures matter, they say little about long-term impact.
A relational approach to consulting places greater emphasis on whether the organisation is clearer than before, whether internal capability has been strengthened, and whether leaders are better equipped to navigate future challenges.
In this sense, the most valuable outcome of consulting is not the final deliverable, but an organisation’s increased ability to make sound decisions in the face of complexity.
Reframing the Question
Rather than asking, “What are we buying?”, organisations may be better served by asking, “What kind of relationship do we need to solve this problem well?”
The answer to that question often determines whether consulting becomes a meaningful investment or simply another transaction.
In the next article in this series, we explore why getting the problem right before engaging consultants is one of the most important, and most overlooked, steps in achieving successful outcomes.